Waaaaaaah. I figured more people than just me would want to know about this.

I had to "grow out" a really bad perm once and like you, I didn't want to completely chop my hair off.  I recommend getting a good cut (and at least get an inch or two cut off to start).  Then, I would start heavily conditioning it (weekly).  Sally Beauty Supply has some really good ION packets with super strength conditioning which run around $.99 each (you can get them for a little less with the Sally Beauty Discount Card!).  I also recommend air drying your hair when you can and forgoe using any electric curling irons for a bit.  It will take some time to completely grow it out, but this would be a good start.  I recommend getting some layers, too, which will help to get rid of some of the dead and dry hair (and you can keep the layers longer for style).  Make a point to go for a good trim or cut (again) every 6 weeks or so.  A chin-length or shoulder-length type of bob might be a good start.  Good luck!

Dawn R.